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total eclipse of the heart

September eighth. Those two words sting. They reach deep into my chest wall, rattle my heart and squeeze it tight. So tight that I become breathless. Breath girl, breath. Then my limbs go numb. Especially my arms. The same arms that are skilled at holding pain for others and carrying it far away from them become anchors. Heaviness down my...
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what boundaries

As I was emerging the winner of a lifelong battle with depression, I realized that boundaries were the only way to keep my stressful life from overwhelming me. Boundaries kept me sane, helped me figure out who/what to pour my love and energy into and assured that my heart wouldn't be easily shattered again. Years ago, I wrote that boundaries are the...
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be the asshole. be the bitch.

One of the things that is very important to me as a parent is helping each of my sons embrace the “light” and “dark” parts of their personalities. To help them notice when they are in the wrong, when their being strong is perceived as wrong and when it is truly somewhere in the middle. Empathy, respect and love for themselves…