Anaín Bjorkquist

5,000+ days of loving you

When in 1998 a handsome young man walked into my life, I instantly told myself don’t do anything stupid with him I had no idea that over 5,000 days later I would still find myself doing stupid things with him.

the first hundred years are the hardest.

A few years before meeting *him* while heading home from an Air Force physical at the Tri-Rail station in Miami I met an elderly couple. Both of them seemed to be fragile but vibrant. They sat close to one another and they laughed as they held hands. The husband helped his weaker wife get on the train. I looked at them lovingly thinking what was their secret to a successful long marriage. Young idealist me boldly decided to ask them their secret; assuming that they had always been together and that this was their first and only marriage. My assumption that I would never make today had been right they had been together for a long time.

This is how the conversation went…

Me: You two seem so very in love still. How long have you been together?

Him: We just celebrated our 75th anniversary last year. Our children threw us a great celebration for that.

The wife smiled and they held hands even tighter.

Me: That’s amazing! What’s your secret?

Him: We don’t have one but the first hundred years are the hardest. It gets easy after that.

He looked at his wife and she smiled at him. They both laughed. It seemed like his response to me had been their inside joke for a long time. She smiled at me and I am certain that although I was smiling I had a perplexed look on my face.

Her: We are best friends that laugh a lot. That’s our secret.

I would lose and win at love, lose and win at love,  and repeat a few times over between the day I spoke with that couple and the day *he* walked into my life.

when he walked into my life… 

I had the ideal boyfriend. I was with a guy that was tall, handsome, hard working, romantic, adventurous, thoughtful, on his way towards success and the list goes on and on. The day he walked into my life I had absolutely zero interest in falling in love with anyone else because I was very busy trying to love everything that was “right” about my boyfriend.

Two things happened the day *he* walked into my life my boyfriend recognized that this new man was a threat and  the laughter began like never before.

My boyfriend was a fireman and he was on a call at a nearby dorm so he stopped by to say hi or who knows maybe he wanted some but when he got to my room there I was in my room watching *him* eat his lunch. My boyfriend asked me to come outside to speak to him.

This is how the conversation went…

Him: Is there another rooster in the hen house?

Me: What’s that mean?

Him: What are you doing with him in your room?

Me: We are on bay orderly together. He’s just some loser. You don’t have anything to worry about.

My boyfriend kissed me, told me that he would be back after work later that night and I headed back into my room and told the loser other rooster the whole entire conversation.

That first week of our friendship the new rooster and I would laugh more than we had ever before. We couldn’t get enough of being around one another. We were just friends sharing laughs. By the time I was off bay orderly a week later and he was supposed to be out of my life forever we had become addicted to spending time together. Laughing.

We would win and lose together at love, win and lose together at love, and repeat a few times over between the day the laughter started and today – over 5,000 days later.

5,000+ days of loving you…

taught me that the first hundred years are the hardest indeed

taught me that being best friends that laugh is the secret to our success

taught me that forgiveness means more than being right

taught me that building a legacy is done one day at a time

taught me that sometimes doing stupid things is smart

5,000+ days of loving you…

I can’t believe we made it this far after all the sadness

I can’t believe we made it this far after all the bitterness

I can’t believe we made it this far after all the hopelessness

I can’t believe we made it this far after all the mistakes

I can’t believe we made it this far after all the stupidity

5,000+ days of loving you…

and you’re the closest to heaven I’ll  ever be

and I all I can taste is this moment

and sooner or later it’s over

and I don’t want the world to see me

but I know that you know who I am!

And yes, I ended that there with lyrics from the Goo Goo Dolls because that was our theme song for these first 5,000+ days and because I just want you (my readers) to know some love secrets…

The first hundred years are the hardest!

Being best friends that can laugh together is vital for successful love!

And it might take you at least 5,000 days to truly know the person you love!

ps. Buggy, I’m so glad that you have withstood 5,045 days of Anaín…so far…

© Anaín Bjorkquist February 10, 2012 ~ All Rights Reserved.

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