giving him the foreplay he needs

For me not getting enough good sex is a deal breaker for a relationship, but I’ve never been quick to quit an otherwise healthy romance without trying to fix the problems in the bedroom. I know that at times women are a bit harsh and might even expect too much from men sexually.

The usual narrative for heterosexual sex is that the men are supposed to take the lead in the bedroom while women are supposed to sit back and enjoy the man’s performance. The alternative narrative among the more liberated is that women also can initiate sex but usually men are still expected to do much of the work after she’s expressed interest in having sex. (more…)


pleasure of pleasuring

With the right person in the right place at the right time doing all the right things that brings me great pleasure!

When done properly and explored fully there is nothing more sensual than giving someone else pleasure. Although getting your partner to orgasm can bring you joy there is much more to attaining pleasure from pleasuring than bringing them to the moment of climax. Sight, touch, taste, smell and hearing the gateways to sexual euphoria should all be unlocked as you make love to your partner. Pleasuring involves respecting all the senses and learning what is the key that promotes pleasure through each. Exploring the intricate details of how to get each sense to bring your partner pleasure requires you to be more alert, receptive and responsive. Being alert, receptive and responsive to your partners sexual likes, dislikes, wants, and needs helps heightens your own sexual awareness. (more…)


The Benevolent Dictator – Who Should Hold the Power in a Relationship? by Max

In an ideal world, a relationship would be like a perfectly-balanced see saw. Each side would be of the same weight and when one side went up, the other would go down (pause?) to compensate. No one side would ever be above the other; instead there would be the perfect, harmonious balance that has everyone on equal footing at all times.

In the real world though, we know that relationships don’t work that way. In most romantic relationships, there is a lover and a loved. Sometimes that just happens organically and other times it’s by design. Sometimes the titles shift fluidly from one partner to another as the relationship grows and develops. But always, there is a balance of power. (more…)


The Kissing Game by WisdomIsMisery

People Don’t Kiss No More All They Do Is Fuck

This might or might not be news to you but there are women out there who place their pussy below their mouths and not just anatomically speaking. Now, I will readily admit that I have had sex with women who didn’t want to kiss because kissing was considered “too personal.” I discussed this with a few other women and they thought this made perfect sense.

This does not make sense, but because I’m a man and I like sex, I pretty much roll with whatever rules and regulations the woman has and then I opine, mule and meander over it post-orgasm. Then in some cases, like this case for example, I write about it. (more…)


be great at love!

It is almost Valentine’s Day! I’m so not excited! ::sighs::

I might not love the idea of Valentine’s but I won’t be a Sour Sally by writing a negative post about how I think it is a silly holiday that is a great economical boost for the flower, greeting card and chocolate industries. No, I just won’t do that and I won’t give you five tips for this or that to make your Valentine’s more romantic, sensual or exotic. Nope, won’t do that either. Instead I’ll give you one quick tip that might help you insure that the man or woman that will be your Valentine this year will be your Valentine again next year. Yes, this post is for those of you that have been in a relationship and want to keep it that way. (more…)


laughter – the world’s most powerful aphrodisiac

There is no defense or offense that will work when he or she can ALWAYS make you laugh.

I’m smiling but I’m NOT laughing!

Is the only defense answer I can muster in those moments when my best friend of the last thirteen years makes me laugh even when I don’t want to…even when I know he is laughing at me and not with me. Laughing at me? Yes. That’s when you know that it is love when your ego retracts and it allows you to let that guard down. All the way down and you can let go and laugh at yourself. He makes me laugh at myself. (more…)


Putting Your Sexy Forward by Tygerlily

If you are single, and you are 27 years of age or older, you must, I repeat, YOU MUST put your sexy forward at all times when you are interested in somebody. Gone are the days when you could afford to be ONLY girl-next-door-cutesy where you could just bat your eyes, and the boy would get the hint. He’s not gonna send you a note asking “Do you like me? Check _______yes ________no _______maybe.” (more…)


sis, think about what love truly means…

You, are one of the lucky ones who was fortunate enough to have attained a good education, you don’t have a job instead you have a career, you have all the things you need, you even have many of the the things you want and everything else is not far from your grasp, except for that man on your list. Yes, you’re one of those ladies that comes equipped with a “wish list” and to it you stick when it comes to finding your man, without budging about the things you want because anything else would be settling. Well, go on girl! Get that perfect man. Wait! (more…)